Disclaimer:The writing below has been edited so many times that a purely academic perspective is diluted into something other than that which was intended.
Let’s be clear, however much it is that the following may be contextualized within the greater understanding of black LGBTQ struggle, this is not a joke piece on what the greater LGBTQ considers as toxic masculinity, nor is it representative of the viewpoints held by the different societies in the global LGBTQIA community.
The definition: Standards in male centric environs and settings which, establish the control and oppression of others negating intellectual and divergent views; the configuration of the expression finds its placement within the messy scales of oppression and bigotry; it does not always operate solo but has cousins such as patriarchy and sexism following it into obvious peril. This piece seeks only to highlight what is real and should not be considered to be exhaustive in what has been set out therein. Save for generally recognised conditions; medically simplified terms, psychological and or clinical psychology terms, nothing adduced within this piece should be taken to be Medical or Bio-medical, psychology, medical sciences or related field authority. Where stated, empirical evidence and a professional assertion is made, the above will not apply.
The ideas fuelling the entire coined phrase are not limited to the world wide web as many with myopic discourses may “inadvertently” seek to advance in commentary to this piece, but the practical application and day to day events of what is considered to be a “man’s world”.
Masculinity as a portrayal of the male essence has been reduced to very poisonous attempts at showing of power, unsolicited power in that same breath, rigours “exploits” to shut down any form of feminine expression outside of the binary, the so called need to establish the use and show of one’s biological make up i.e. the hormone testosterone. So what if the next man is less prone to the disgusting hygiene practices some consider “manly” The scientific facts stand, an acknowledgement of anatomical dissimilarities as between cis male and cis female human beings are more than apparent. What is not normally considered or pushed aside are the individuals whose biological sexes do not align neatly within the confines of the sex spectrum that is a whole other topic, however important to mention, so as to put everything into context. Tradition has informed millennia of toxic masculinity, signalling the point of departure when seeking to bring redress to the all-encompassing problem; the root; break off from negative normative systems created not as a means of classification but rather conscription of femme ideals and expression. Basically the useless “values” carried on to this very time have got to be eradicated! The next part focuses on the standard definitions and “generally” recognized terms associated with masculinity as a whole, addressing the challenges found therein, probing to find what lies beneath the usual..
So it’s that time of the year, when many meet with their loved ones, a time for holidays, celebrations and converging of familiar faces in common spaces. Being an individual who struggles with the concept of family, I understand the detached family member’s life during this period, especially that of the queer individual.
I’m still a dependent, which inadvertently means playing along with any activity which may be planned out, I don’t hate the idea of being around people, it’s the type of minds I am surrounded by; the hearts; and comfort which I am concerned with. Black families are super complicated, this should ring true for everyone. On my own, I won’t be amped up to be around any family if they aren’t agreeable.
In the African context, our families have greater nuances pertaining to relational, structural components. The moments which occur range from awkward to fun filled intervals, hyper religious sentiments and in some families “macigo”-traditional facets to the celebratory times.
My conclusion, there is no one else you can be, being your authentic self will yield your own comfort should you elect to be self aware, it may drive the hate of your true self stemming from some irrational fears, misinformation and ignorance. Be at peace, know the universe is listening, send the same amount of positive energy outwards.This message is specifically sent out to people of color. Remember little nubian you are divine.
Drawing nearer to the true nature of the Kemet, does one now find relief in the mystical, are we as Nubia that far detached? As African Queers people more often than not is it necessary to highlight our pivotal role or existence dating back to antiquity.
I’ve given myself the task to study, and align with common modern civil principles, the varied truths which undoubtedly exist. Ponder for yourself the true nature of the Kemet. Be fully aware of the factual matter which confronts you.
Understanding my positioning as a powerful being is fraught with uncertainty and a deeper sense of curiosity.
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